Thanks a lot for your quick response...sorry for my delayed response, i thought that I had enabled the email...anyway.
1. The w3wp.exe PIDs are changing when I restart the web server and there is only one of them
2. With procmon, it seems that it is loading the correct one, c:\windows\php.ini. There are also entries in there where it is trying to load C:\Windows\SysWOW64\inetsrv\php.ini but it doesn't find that file because it doesn't exist. After it fails to find the file there it then reads it from C:\windows\php.ini.
3. Other settings don't work. I tried to enable a couple of extensions and they don't show up.
Thanks again for getting right back to me.
-Clay